Academy of Management

Organizational Hierarchy Complicates Work Friendships

By Daniel Butcher

Friendship at work is important for many professionals as a crucial source of connection, especially for people who spend a lot of time working.

Academy of Management Scholar Nancy Rothbard of the University of Pennsylvania said that her research highlighted that workplace friendships can be a little bit trickier than non-workplace friendships for a couple of reasons.

“One is that you don’t have the same level of voluntary choice in an organizational setting about who you interact with—sometimes you don’t get to choose who’s on your team,” Rothbard said. “And so, if you are or aren’t friends with people on the team, that can impact the way that you interact with them.

“You have to be careful about the boundaries of those friendships and how they play out, you also have to be careful, because sometimes you can really go in deep, and it can be very distracting for your own ability to do your work if you’re always trying to help a friend,” she said. “A third reason why friendship at work can be really challenging is that you can be seen as having a clique, or people can be envious of that friendship, or they can think about the friendship as something that they’re worried about, and so that can be really challenging.

“The last reason is, sometimes when you’re known to be friends with somebody, people might perceive the decision-making as less fair, whether it is fair or not, if you’re seen as making that decision with, or about, a friend, and so that’s another issue you have to be aware of, monitor, and manage when you are friends with others in the workplace.”

Research has also shown that workplace friendships are even more challenging when relationships cross hierarchical levels.

“These personal disclosures or issues are more awkward or can be seen by others in ways that make them seem problematic when it’s across these levels of hierarchy,” Rothbard said. “I have a AOM article titled “OMG! My Boss Just Friended Me: How Evaluations of Colleagues’ Disclosure, Gender, and Rank Shape Personal/Professional Boundary Blurring Online,” which looked at that exact issue of hierarchy and friendship, that is, personal disclosure across hierarchical boundaries.

“We found that that was quite uncomfortable for people being connected across hierarchical levels, much more so than being connected to peers,” she said. “If your boss sends a friend request, you feel pressured to accept it.

“People don’t want to accept it, but they often feel obligated to accept it, and so then it creates a whole host of other issues.”

Author

  • Daniel Butcher is a writer and the Managing Editor of AOM Today at the Academy of Management (AOM). Previously, he was a writer and the Finance Editor for Strategic Finance magazine and Management Accounting Quarterly, a scholarly journal, at the Institute of Management Accountants (IMA). Prior to that, he worked as a writer/editor at The Financial Times, including daily FT sister publications Ignites and FundFire, Crain Communications’s InvestmentNews and Crain’s Wealth, eFinancialCareers, and Arizent’s Financial Planning, Re:Invent|Wealth, On Wall Street, Bank Investment Consultant, and Money Management Executive. He earned his bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado Boulder and his master’s degree from New York University. You can reach him at dbutcher@aom.org or via LinkedIn.

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